I’ve read that every feeling, attitude, thought, and action stems from one of two “root” emotions: Love or Fear.
All positive emotions come from love, all negative emotions from fear.
Everything is based on either Love or Fear.
When we consider the sheer number of choices we make every day, and realize that every decision we make is based on either love or fear, how we live our lives is put into sharp perspective.
The first step is to distinguish the loving parts of your personality that are active from the frightened parts of your personality that are active - in other words, to learn to distinguish love from fear in you. The second step is to choose love, no matter what.
Always choose love.
I know (from firsthand experience) that there are times when things just don’t seem to go right. Interactions seem full of conflict, difficulties and frustration. We anger easily- regardless of whether it is directed at someone, something or some situation.
Lashing out may even seem like an appropriate (and rational) response. Choose love instead.
Always choose love.
Sure, you might be right, but do you NEED to ‘win’? Why is it so important that you be ‘right’?
Do you realize that your need to be right stems from fear? FEAR, not love.
So what is more important to you? Being right or being loved? Is your priority winning the argument or being connected?
The reality is this: Our need to be ‘right’ is generally based on doubt. It can also be a manifestation of our fear of abandonment and/or fear of failure. And though the need to be right enters all areas of our lives, it’s especially damaging during conflicts with those we love.
CHOOSE LOVE.
Do you want to be right, or do you want to be in relationship?
Our actions are often determined by our expectations. Being right means that things go as we planned- and our need to be right stems from our need to be in control.
Choose Love, not control.
It is common to say that we are doing something out of love when we are actually doing it out of fear. Love and fear are complete opposites. So be honest with yourself, are you doing it out of love or are you doing it out of fear?
Choose love instead of anger.
Choose love instead of fear.
Choose love instead of hate.
Choose love instead of being right.
Choose love instead of winning the argument.
Choose love instead of judgment.
Choose love instead of condemnation.
Coose love instead of of disapproval.
Choose love instead of rejection.
It is inevitable – people will disappoint you. And the more those people matter to you, the more bitter the disappointment and the deeper the discord.
You could choose hold a grudge, nurturing unforgiveness as a way of punishing the offender. However, you only punish yourself, making yourself a hostage to the dissonance.
Forgiveness is rooted in love. To be unforgiving s to be be hard – be unrelenting, uncompromising, and intolerant.
Is that who you are? Is that how you want to be?
It doesn’t have to been that way.
Forgiveness is choosing to love. It is the first skill of self-giving love.
Choosing love over fear is about doing your best to always make a loving choice and to act on love instead of fear.
You cannot change your life simply from the knowledge that we are driven by love or fear. However that awareness can cause you to think about things different and the more you think about things differently, the more likely you are to make different decisions and take different actions. Over time, those decisions and actions can change your life.
Choose to be motivated by and inspired.
Let your knowledge be an impetus for self improvement and change.
Choose Love.
“You are being presented with a choice: evolve or remain. If you choose to remain unchanged, you will be presented with the same challenges, the same routine, the same storms, the same situations, until you learn from them, until you love yourself enough to say ‘no more,’ until you choose change. If you choose to evolve, you will connect with the strength within you, you will explore what lies outside the comfort zone, you will awaken to love, you will become, you will be. You have everything you need. Choose to evolve. Choose love.”
