I’m a MCU (Phase 1-3) fan. Not a crazy, obsessive, ‘read every Stan Lee Marvel comic’ kind of fan, but definitely a ‘watch every MCU (Phase 1-3) movie at least three times’ fan. I love knowing that by the end of the movie, good guys always win and bad guys lose. Consequently, Avengers: Infinity War and Avengers: Endgame almost broke me, but that’s a different post for a different time.)
It took me a decade, but I *finally* decide to try watching the Marvel-based TV series, ‘Agents of Shield.’
I’ve finished all of season one, and there was one particular scene from an episode that immediately resonated with me. In a scene with character Mike Peterson, Coulson asks Peterson why he hasn’t gone to see his son.
Peterson answered, “Because the last time he saw me, I was a monster.”
Coulson replied, “You can’t fix that from here.”
And that’s what stuck with me.
“You can’t fix that from here.”
At one time or another, most of us try to run away from our problems. We’ll do anything to avoid remembering painful conflict, misunderstandings, disappointments, shame and hurt.
Avoidance at any cost.
Avoiding problems you need to face is avoiding life you need to live.
If you’ve read previous posts of mine, then you know that I am an advocate for Hard Conversations.
I have learned (often the hard way) that hard conversations can lead to positive changes and big breakthroughs. So while I don’t revel in them, I’ve learned to not avoid them. Sometimes, I even seek them out.
When I think of the occasions when I did not have one of those important, but difficult conversations, I am reminded that the negative repercussions of avoidance far exceeded any other possible outcome.
Here’s the thing: Running away from your problems only works if your problem is a serial killer (or something similar).
Whatever your problem(s) is/are, you can’t fix it/them until you are willing to admit there is a problem and work to address it.
When your problem is wayyyy over there, “You can’t fix that from here.“
